{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"65382614","dateCreated":"1386734441","smartDate":"Dec 10, 2013","userCreated":{"username":"emayo13","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/emayo13","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/65382614"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Listening ","description":"I have witnessed a lot a conflict because my house was pretty crazy growing up. This has made me avoid conflict from a very early age, but I do know how to help people who are arguing with each other.
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\nPeople who are arguing usually aren't thinking logically and are just trying to defend themselves. When you try to help them, it isn't always appreciated at first. But once you help them out, the people involved usually thank you for helping them. They are able to see more clearly what the other person is saying without feeling as personally attacked.
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\nThe conflict would go a lot different if the two participants were wearing giraffe ears. They would be able to talk through their disagreement without having to defend themselves and getting upset. They would hear the facts that the other person is sharing and be able share how you feel. People would fit a lot less if they would just listen to each other and not get so easily worked up.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"61082220","dateCreated":"1355348610","smartDate":"Dec 12, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"laeling1","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/laeling1","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/61082220"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lianna Aeling-response ","description":"A conflict that I have witnessed is one between a close friend and her boyfriend. My friend was concerned that he wasn\u2019t as invested in the relationship and that it would not be sustained after he moves 10 hours away for a job. She accuses him of avoiding or getting tired of her, while he tries to explain his situation and why he doesn\u2019t put as much effort in. She realizes his busy schedule and lack of sleep, but still criticizes him for these things. If she would take a second and listen with more giraffe ears, she would be able to relax and understand how much he truly cares, despite his shortcomings.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"61060436","dateCreated":"1355157737","smartDate":"Dec 10, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"mgreathousemarshall","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/mgreathousemarshall","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/61060436"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"MGreathouse-Response","description":"Verbal communication: how does Marshall's communication styles align with the information in the power point on Active Listening (think about verbal communication and body language)?
\nMarshall\u2019s style aligns with the powerpoint because they both point out that understanding is the key to everything. You cannot solve a problem or listen if you are defensive and ready to defend. Try to understand the situation or what the other person is saying before you jump to conclusion and do something that you will regret. I work with a youth group at my church. Conflicts arise all the time during our teen group meetings. There is always something was said or an action that has offended the other person. We consistently play the referee. We have to remind them that they need to not close themselves off and actually listen to the words the person is saying. But we also teach them that it now what you say, but how you say it. With that, they have to take into consideration how they would want to receive someone who talking to them about how they feel. We teach them that they cannot control how the other person feels, but that they can knowledge that they may have hurt or offended them. It doesn\u2019t mean that you agree with what they are saying about the situation, but they recognize that was harm was caused intentionally or unintentionally.
\nThink of a conflict you have witnessed or been a part of. Write a brief dialog as it typically happens between the people involved. Then rewrite it with one participant using giraffe ears. You can assume that only one person is using giraffe ears or you can put giraffe ears on all participants.
\nOnce we had two teenage girls who were arguing about something the other person heard them say to someone else. I brought them both into a room and asked what was going on. As the one girl talked, the other one kept interrupting trying to defend herself and vice versa. Eventually I stopped the discussion and told both of them that if they interrupted the other person again, I would end the discussion and tell their parents. From them on the rule was that when the other person finished speaking the other girl had to summarize what was said before she could tell her version. Eventually the one girl who was offended realized that the story was not she thought it was. She had missed the beginning of the conversation and the end because she had walked away. The one girl even apologized for unintentionally hurting her and the other for jumping to conclusions. (I wish all conflicts were that simple)","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"61049390","dateCreated":"1355004970","smartDate":"Dec 8, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"escott91","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/escott91","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/61049390"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"erin scott- response","description":"They compliment each other really well. Both have to do with more listening and less talking. My brother always says, \u201cGod gave us two ears and one mouth so we would listen twice as much as we talk\u201d and this reminds me of that! Both the powerpoint and Marshall emphasize listening and taking the focus away from self and putting it on the person- to give less advice and talk less about self and work more on understanding the other person and building empathy.
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\nOne conflict could be between roommates and cleanliness:
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\n\u201cWould you mind cleaning up your dishes? They are overtaking the counter and I already did mine.\u201d
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\n\u201cI don\u2019t see why you should be bothered by that. I\u2019m too busy, just don\u2019t look at them.\u201d
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\n\u201cYou\u2019re not too busy. It only takes 10 minutes.\u201d
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\nGiraffe Ears:
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\n\u201cWould you mind cleaning up your dishes? They are overtaking the counter and I already did mine.\u201d
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\n\u201cI\u2019m sorry, I didn\u2019t realize it bothered you. Would it be ok if I did them after I finish this paper tonight?\u201d
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\n\u201cYes that would be fine. Thanks for understanding.\u201d","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"61038066","dateCreated":"1354867236","smartDate":"Dec 7, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"kleitschuh","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kleitschuh","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/61038066"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Listening","description":"Listening
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\nVerbal communication: how does Marshall's communication styles align with the information in the power point on Active Listening (think about verbal communication and body language)? Think of a conflict you have witnessed or been a part of. Write a brief dialog as it typically happens between the people involved. Then rewrite it with one participant using giraffe ears. You can assume that only one person is using giraffe ears or you can put giraffe ears on all participants.
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\nI think that these communication styles definitely align with what was presented in the power point. In comparison to the PowerPoint, Marshall understands the need for understanding in problem solving. The PowerPoint states that the only way to understand a person is to listen to that person and seek clarification to ensure understanding. To achieve such understanding he believes that we must use \u201cgiraffe ears\u201d to turn away from being aggressive. What I really enjoyed is that he had a nonviolent communication and that positive regards or empathy are both large characteristics of his model. The opposite this is that we as humans lack understanding, congruence, or empathy make us to not be good listeners and using our \u201cJackal Ears\u201d. The body language of giraffe and Jackal\u2019s are made as symbolically polar opposites. The difference between the two effects how comfortable communication is. A conflict I have been in would have to be getting along with my older sister when we were growing up. One memory of this would have to be when my sister and I would fight over who got to take the first shower in the mornings before school. Such a small thing, but without our \u201cgiraffe ears\u201d on we would start screaming matches that would always make my mother get involved. If I would have put my \u201cgiraffe ears\u201d on and listened to my sister\u2019s reasoning to having to go first because she took longer to get ready then we could have saved a lot of arguments between us growing up. It\u2019s funny to look back and see how something as simple as listening could have helped the situation and how important listening is in all aspects of encounters through life.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"61023650","dateCreated":"1354767837","smartDate":"Dec 5, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"karibradley","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/karibradley","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/61023650"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Kari Bradley- Response","description":"Verbal communication: how does Marshall's communication styles align with the information in the power point on Active Listening (think about verbal communication and body language)? Think of a conflict you have witnessed or been a part of. Write a brief dialog as it typically happens between the people involved. Then rewrite it with one participant using giraffe ears. You can assume that only one person is using giraffe ears or you can put giraffe ears on all participants.
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\nI really thought that Marshall\u2019s concept regarding Jackal and Giraffe ears was extremely interesting. The whole point of the \u201cgiraffe ears\u201d is to understand what the other person is saying, their thought and feelings, and not attacking them like the jackal would. I think the giraffe is getting at the whole point of unconditional positive regard, which is understanding the other person, and that they and what they\u2019re saying has value. The giraffe also expresses a lot of empathy. When it comes to body language, the giraffe stays totally focused on the person they are listening to. An argument that I commonly have with my roommate is about making dinner and doing the dishes. It usually is something like this:
\nHer: Can\u2019t you just make dinner tonight? I\u2019m too busy!
\nMe: But I make dinner every night, you never do anything!
\nHer: I\u2019ll do dishes!
\nMe: Yeah, you\u2019ll do them HOURS after dinner, and by then I\u2019ll have done them anyway! You could help out around the apartment every once in a while!
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\nThis is how it would go if we were both wearing giraffe ears:
\nHer: Would you mind making dinner tonight? I have a lot of homework to do, and I just don\u2019t have enough time to do everything.
\nMe: Yeah, I guess I can make dinner tonight. I\u2019m sorry you\u2019re so busy. Do you think when you\u2019re not so busy you could make dinner?
\nHer: Of course! Thanks for all your help. I\u2019ll definitely be more of a help when I\u2019m not so busy. I can do the dishes after we eat!
\nMe: I don\u2019t mind doing them if you\u2019re too busy, but thank you!","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"61018320","dateCreated":"1354733643","smartDate":"Dec 5, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"ChristineAngi","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/ChristineAngi","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/61018320"},"dateDigested":1532724579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Christine Angiuoli-Response","description":"Verbal communication: how does Marshall's communication styles align with the information in the power point on Active Listening (think about verbal communication and body language)? Think of a conflict you have witnessed or been a part of. Write a brief dialog as it typically happens between the people involved. Then rewrite it with one participant using giraffe ears. You can assume that only one person is using giraffe ears or you can put giraffe ears on all participants.
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\nI believe that these theories do align. Right off that bat you could compare by saying that they both believe problem solving is based on understanding. In addition to this the power point states that the only way to understand a person is to listen to that person and seek clarification to ensure understanding. This is also true with Marshalls theory in how he states the in good active listening it is okay to interrupt to clarify your understanding because the average person may only be able to truly comprehend 40 words at a time. A conflict I have witnessed was one when I was shadowing in a classroom. The students were in a special needs classroom together to get supplemental help in math. Student one was being left out and called names by other students, the twins, in the class. This student did not say outright that he had not been included in games when he asked to join but instead a safety monitor had reported this to the teacher I was shadowing who had the students in her math class. The teacher had the three students in, the twins and the boy, to talk about what had happened and gave each student a chance to explain what had happened. When we began to work towards resolving the issue you could tell the boy who had been left out wore the giraffe ears while the twins wore the jackal ears. When the teacher asked the twins what had happened they were only very quick to defend their actions and go so far as to say this didn\u2019t occur at all rather than to understand the teacher in explaining how this had hurt the boy. The boy was very factual and you could tell was trying to make things seem not as bad as they really were not to make the twins more upset than they already were.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"60866324","dateCreated":"1353213860","smartDate":"Nov 17, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"cbpries","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/cbpries","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/60866324"},"dateDigested":1532724580,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Carly Pries Response","description":"Verbal communication: how does Marshall's communication styles align with the information in the power point on Active Listening (think about verbal communication and body language)?
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\nMarshall's communication styles align with the information on the powerpoint about active listening because in the powerpoint it discusses how the only way to solve a problem is through understanding. It explains that the only way to understand another person is to listen and be sure that you are taking in what that person is saying. It also explains unconditional positive regard which involves accepting what the other person has to say. Everything Marshall discusses talks about all of these aspects that were presented in the powerpoint. He explains that by using giraffe ears you are participating in active listening by hearing what the other person is saying and understanding their point of view in order to fulfill the task of problem solving. He also talks about the Jackal which represents being defensive, argumentative and uncooperative.
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\nThink of a conflict you have witnessed or been a part of. Write a brief dialog as it typically happens between the people involved. Then rewrite it with one participant using giraffe ears. You can assume that only one person is using giraffe ears or you can put giraffe ears on all participants.
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\nConflicts that I have witnessed have been very large political arguments between my dad, uncle and grandfather. My dad and my uncle associate themselves with one political party and my grandfather associates himself with another. They go back and forth a million times about the opposing views in both parties yet neither side actually hears what the other is saying and it sometimes causes issues in their relationship because it becomes a huge battle especially around big elections and\/or political events. In this case, both sides wear jackal ears and remain on the defensive and don't consider the other side. If all three of them wore giraffe ears, they could openly understand where the other side is coming from and even if there is still disagreement then they can agree to disagree on the subject matter and not allow the disagreement to impose on their relationship.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"58781700","body":"I have gotten really sick of political arguments and completely agree with you that people are not listening to each other.","dateCreated":"1354392744","smartDate":"Dec 1, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"COCapitalU","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/COCapitalU","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}}],"more":0}]},{"id":"60626780","dateCreated":"1351129591","smartDate":"Oct 24, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"arutsky","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/arutsky","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/capitaledpsych.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/60626780"},"dateDigested":1532724580,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Andrew Rutsky","description":"Verbal communication: how does Marshall's communication styles align with the information in the power point on Active Listening (think about verbal communication and body language)? Think of a conflict you have witnessed or been a part of. Write a brief dialog as it typically happens between the people involved. Then rewrite it with one participant using giraffe ears. You can assume that only one person is using giraffe ears or you can put giraffe ears on all participants.
\n\u2022 I think that Marshall\u2019s communication styles definitely align with what was in the power point. Marshall understands the need for understanding in problem solving. To achieve understanding he believes that we must use \u201cgiraffe ears\u201d and not be aggressive. Positive regards and empathy are both characteristics of his nonviolent communication model. He believes that if we lack understanding, congruence, or empathy we aren\u2019t being good listeners and using our \u201cJackal Ears\u201d. The body language of giraffe and Jackal\u2019s are both different and will effect how comfortable communication is. One conflict that I have been apart of is with my mom. One night I wanted to go hang out with my friends and my mom wanted me to stay home because it was a school night. Instead of listening to each other we both argued and talked over each other. If I had used Giraffe ears I could have understood her point of view and avoided a conflict over such a trivial thing. I she had used giraffe ears she could have understood my point of view and perhaps empathized with my need to hang out with my friends. Either way listening could have helped the situation and is important in all aspects of life.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"57840118","body":"I think giraffe ears helps in communicating with family members--and that is one of the hardest places to begin using giraffe ears!!","dateCreated":"1351621809","smartDate":"Oct 30, 2012","userCreated":{"username":"COCapitalU","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/COCapitalU","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}}],"more":0}]}],"more":false},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}